demi lavotos story

Demi Lovato has a secret to share: Growing up wasn't always easy for her.

"I had a really tough time when I was in middle school," the X Factor judge, 20, tells PEOPLE. "People would write 'hate petitions' [about me] and send them around to be signed. They'd have CD-bashing parties of my demos. They'd come to my house, stand across the street and yell things. It was a very emotional time for me, and all I wanted to do was get away."

It was so bad, in fact, that Lovato believes it's part of what led her to seek treatment for issues like an eating disorder and cutting nearly two years ago.

"Back then, there were times I didn't think I'd be able to move on," she admits.

Fortunately, Lovato has made it to the "other side," and is now drawing on those painful experiences as the new ambassador for Secrets "Mean Stinks" campaign, encouraging girls to "gang up for good" to end bullying in schools.

"I heard about the program last year, and thought it was such a great opportunity," Lovato says. "They're really trying to put an end to bullying."

Thursday morning, the star surprised students at New York City's Young Women's Leadership School to talk to them about the program, which asks girls to pledge to have a "Drama Free School Year" by making a pinkie swear, symbolised by wearing blue nail polish on their pinkie fingers.

"I'll definitely be wearing [the nail polish] starting soon," Lovato says. "It's a conversation starter: 'Hey, why is your pinkie blue?' 'This is a pinkie promise that I'm not going to bully people, that me and my friends are ganging up for good.' "

how to deal with bullying

hey guys ! first i wanna say thank you for all the pageviews....:) k so i just wanna say that since my last bullying post, the bullying has gone down a lot and my confidence has gone way up and i love my body  now . so i wanna give you guys some tips on how to survive bullying....so here we go:

step #
1. Know what kind of bully you are dealing with. What does he/she do to others, and how does he react with different situations?

• Aggressive bullies are likely to abuse physically and without hesitation. Try to feel the inner you always think you have your life he/she cannot take that away from you. Believe you will be stronger than him, you are stronger then him.
• Taunting bullies are verbally abusive (calling names, making jokes, teasing, etc.).
• Indirect bullies spread rumors, exclude others, and harass their victims whenever possible. Try to overcome the rumors, tell everyone its not true and the bully just wants attention.
• Cyber bullies harass other kids through instant messaging, e-mail, and any other electronic means. There are more specific ways to deal with online bullies. The best way is to delete them and not read anything they say. Be sure to block the bully as well.

2.Work your way around the bullies. Try and avoid them in school and social situations. If they go somewhere the same way you do, try a different way, if they can't find you, they can't bully you. Don't go anywhere near them,try your best to avoid them but don't show that you are avoiding them. They will usually read this as fear/success, and they will bully you more as a result

3 .Show minimal reaction to bullying. Do not show the bullies that you feel hurt if they do something that makes you uncomfortable; just walk off. Bullies gain satisfaction from making others feel hurt or uncomfortable, so giving them a reaction may only encourage them further. The bully wants attention and if you show them that they are emotionally hurting you, they will get more pleasure out of doing this.

• This tactic may backfire depending on the bully, so read the situation carefully. Some bullies will feel safe tormenting you,(as they enjoy that action itself) if they see that you aren't suffering from their actions.
• You cannot talk sense to an irrational person. Walk away with dignity, saying you have better things to do with your time. If it continues, stand up for yourself. If it continues or does not continue, be sure to stand up for others.

4.Do not make jokes at your own expense to try to prove that there is nothing they can do to hurt your feelings. This will only please them, and they will often chip in with their own ridicule and humiliation to lower your self-esteem

5.Report all bullying to an authority figure. Consider your parents, school guidance counselor, principal, or someone else who can deal with or punish the bully and protect your safety. It's important that you talk to someone about your problem to get it to end. Do not worry about revenge that the bully may take if you report the incident; they will hurt you anyway and appeasing them doesn't solve your problem. You can also go to tell a good friend. A good friend includes them standing up for you and you standing up for them as well at all times.

• If there is a bullying survey in your school always write your name down. Do not be embarrassed. You will probably start to talk to someone who is very experienced and this can be surprisingly helpful. You might feel very small but in reality you are bigger then the bully.

6.Help others. Bullies are people who try to make themselves look good. All they want is attention take that away from them and they have nothing. But you can look better by helping others! Try asking the bully why they pick on people. There is never a good enough answer to this question. If you dont want to ask the bully this force them into being uncomfortable but, make sure your not bullying them.


and finally some:

Tips

• Be aware of your surroundings. Walk with your head up looking forward in the direction you are walking, use your peripheral vision to be aware of the people around you.
• Be assertive and stand your ground.
• Ignore them and walk away- that's your best bet. All they want is attention.
• Walk with a purposeful confidence and a 'don't you dare mess with me attitude.'
• Stay calm at all times, as this will puzzle and frustrate a typical bully at their attempts to elicit a negative reaction.
• Whatever you do, do not actually fight the bully unless you are in serious danger of injury.
• Don't take anything bullies say to heart - they are not worthy of your tears! Do not let their words stop you from achieving your goals! Show confidence, and show to them that their words have no effect on you.
• Remember that bullies can't hurt you. They just want to show that they're 'powerful', even though they show just the opposite: They are cowards. Really powerful people show their power in other ways, not by humiliating others that are 'weaker' than them. Show them that you're not afraid of them.
• Some bullies might just be jealous of you. They only bully you because you have a great talent that they don't have, so be proud of what you are doing. Calling names is not fun. Actually, what's deep inside those bullies is they don't have the guts to do what you do the best.
• Never say anything bad to be defensive. Doing what the bully does for "revenge" means you're just as bad as they are.

 

 

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